treasure your friends

I am a lousy friend. I do not take care of my friends as much as I know I am supposed to.

I have taken my friends for granted for quite some time, however I might continue to do so without regard to this post.

Friends. They are the people who help you out when there is no one else around. They owe you nothing but they spend their time and effort (and even money) to help you in time of need.

I am talking about real friends, true friends. Not the fake friends you can find here and there and everywhere.

There are many ways to make friends. One is through force. This is a common bond that happens when people are forced to be together against their wish. However a friendship may be formed out of it. A good example is when you go to school. From there you get to meet other people who also have to go to school.

Regardless of how you make a friend, I find that in the absence of friends, you will be able to find out who your true friends are. Your friends will look for you, just to have a drink, to catch up on how you’ve been doing.

I have lived many years on this planet called Earth. I have befriended many people. Many are just friends that pass along in my life, probably never seeing them again anymore. Some are just fake friends, who befriend me for the sake of having the benefit of my IT savy /equipment during college or such.

Yes I have many friends. I also have many true friends.

Fights and arguements will happen but people learn to forgive, learn to forget. It is weird how the people who can hurt you the most are the people who are closest to you. Sometimes the reason for the arguement is silly and at some points insanely ridiculous, emotions run wild and relations are strained.

Time can heal. Let time heal the wounds. Talk things through. I always believe that problems happen because of misunderstanding. Misunderstanding is the byproduct of miscommunication. Talk. Listen.

Sometimes the truth hurts. Sometimes you don’t feel what others say is correct. They might be wrong, but there must be a reason to why they tell you something. One thing about criticism, is that if people care about you, they will criticize you when they think what you are doing is wrong. If people have given up hope on you or just do not want to be bothered about you, they will just keep quiet and let you continue on.

I am happy. I have many true friends. I am grateful.

It is very easy to take your friends for granted. Recently I have realized, that one should never take their friends for granted. Some people have no friends at all.

Some people have “friends” but these “friends” lead them into oblivion. I sometimes imagine how I would turn out if all my friends were gangsters who smoke and are involved with vice. Would I turn out to be in jail now? Would I be still alive? Would I have dyed my hair green and sport a cool tribal tattoo down the side of my arm?

I am content at what I have become. Like it or not, friends have played an important part in my life.

Sometimes, I have problems. Who do I turn to? If it’s not my parents then it will be my friends. My friends lend me their ear (I have no need for their shoulder :p). My friends give me advice. My friends cheer me up.

I am horribly lame. My jokes are lame, I act lame and I simply am lame. I do not hide the fact. I do try and tone down, however my lameness is not the topic of this post. My friends are. My friends tolerate my lameness, sometimes they laugh at me, sometimes they laugh with me, sometimes I laugh at them. I am happy having friends who can accept me for who I am. I do not need to act differently in front of them, maybe I do who knows.

I just want to remind everyone to treasure your friends.